Let me jump right in – I need to ask you a question before we even get started – How serious are you about personal accountability in your life? You need to ask yourself this question because the answer will help you understand why your life is the way it is right now. So, from a scale to 1-10 where do you land?
Honestly, I land between seven to eight. I’m not perfect; I’m a work-in-progress. But guess I used to fall between one and two. I would think, Accountability what? Naw, I got an excuse, so I’m good. However, after a while, the explanations started to build up in my life, and nothing was getting done. My personal and business life began to fall apart because my excuses were not enough to keep everything together and people started to get tired of them. People began to see through my excuses and wanted to know the real reason behind them. People would wonder, why wasn’t Rose following through with her commitments? Why didn’t Rose love her family the way she supposed to? Why was Rose so withdrawn? After a while, I had to make a choice to own my s**t (sorry for the language) or risk losing it all.
I had a lot of thinking to do, and I was comfortable with the excuses I made. However, I was not okay with losing everything precious to me. So after a lot of hair pulling, teeth grinding, and feet stomping, I decided to start being accountable for what was going on in my life. But the decision to be self-accountable wasn’t easy for me. I had to reprogram my mindset around the word ‘accountability.’
First, I had to understand what accountability truly meant. So I did some research and came across this definition of personal accountability: the willingness to answer for the outcomes of your choices, actions, and behaviors. When you start being personally accountable, you stop assigning blame, making excuses, and start taking ownership. After reading the definition of personal accountability, I began to inject accountability into my life every time I felt myself about to place blame or make an excuse. I read that definition out loud to remind myself of what I would lose out on if I went back to making the excuses. Doing this helped me stay on the path of personal accountability.
I do sometimes fall off the right track because there are areas in my life where I feel that it’s easier to blame others rather than figure out a way to fix the problems I face. And that is why on a scale of personal accountability ranging from 1 to 10 (10 being maximum personal accountability), I am at 7 to 8, and not at a perfect 10. We are human, and we are bound to make mistakes. We just have to learn and grow from the mistakes we make. So what did I learn from my mistakes? I learned how to eliminate distracting and unproductive actions, behavior, and activities. And how did I grow? I started to make myself accountable. I taught myself to value my commitments which in return increased my skill and confidence level.
So don’t forget to scale your personal accountability. Do write down what you feel you can learn from becoming more accountable and also how you can grow as a result of it. Hey! Hey! Hey! Don’t leave yet because I need a favor from all my awesome readers. I understand, and I hope you agree as well that everybody learns differently, and we all process information differently. So I’m reaching out to you – my community – for help because I want us to grow together. So if you have any advice that you believe can help someone or have useful information to add, please do let us know in the comments section because each one of us is a teacher and an educator!